Some mothers around them regard carefully dressing up their children as a great joy in parenting, tirelessly matching clothes for them every day. The colors must match and look pleasing, and the styles must be elegant and graceful.

There are also many mothers who don't dress up themselves and neglect to dress up their children. They even think that their children are still young and that eating, dressing, warming up, and sleeping well are the only serious things. They spend so much time dressing up every day. Who should they show this to? Isn't it worrying that children will become increasingly vain if they are taught to love beauty from a young age?

But in fact, dressing up children and encouraging them to pursue beauty have nothing to do with vanity!

External beauty and internal beauty are not contradictory

Valuing appearance does not mean neglecting the inner self.

There used to be a very popular joke online that said, "The thing you're most afraid of is not someone who's better than you, but someone who's better than you and looks better than you

In this era where appearance is strength, the most outstanding people often possess both inner and outer qualities, as well as temperament and knowledge. People who can leave a deep impression often radiate a confident light from the inside out, and their aura alone can instantly kill many people.

Speaking of which, some mothers may argue, "Making your child look bad from a young age is not serious! You have to focus on more important things

Le Ma wants to say, can letting children grow up in a disheveled and messy state make them smarter, better, and more confident?

Obviously not!

After entering society, whether children can win more opportunities depends not only on having knowledge, but also on having a proper appearance. When facing the same competitive opportunity, there is no doubt that those with appropriate appearance and elegant temperament are more likely to win the favor of others when everyone's strength is comparable.

And those children who have been brainwashed by the idea that 'inner beauty is true beauty' since childhood, only found out to their fathers after entering society: if you are not beautiful on the outside, others are not interested in learning about your 'inner beauty'!

Don't let your child lose their dignity because of their messy appearance

Another benefit of dressing up children well is to make them live a more dignified life.

Yang Lan, who was once 25 years old, realized this truth at the most difficult time.

You Chinese girl with no manners! Get out of my house

In the late night of winter in New York, at the age of 25, she was scolded by her landlord and kicked out of the house in a foreign land.

The reason is that after washing her hair, she sat on the bed, eating bread rolls and flipping through newspapers. This is a violation of landlord principles.

Landlord Mrs. Selina is a middle-aged woman who loves beauty but is very demanding.

If you are not dressed neatly, you are not allowed to enter her living room. When guests visit, you must wear lipstick and cannot sit on the bed eating... These are all her so-called principles.

Before this, Yang Lan almost never dressed herself up, let alone applied lipstick.

Moreover, for twenty-five years, her mother has been telling her that a person's grades and abilities are the most important.

But everyone here judges people based on their appearance.

The interviewer during the day rejected her on the grounds that her personal image did not match her resume, which is an insult to her 25 year outlook on life.

Nowadays, Yang Lan exudes a refined and elegant aura in every movement, with a confident smile that often makes people feel like they are basking in the spring breeze.

As she said, no one has an obligation to discover your abundant soul through a messy appearance that even you don't care about yourself.

I used to not care so much about my children's clothing, thinking that we should instill in them a concept from a young age: appearance is not important, the key is inner qualities.

One day when my daughter finished school, she pestered me to buy a dress from the Frozen series. I thought I would fulfill her wish, so I took her to the mall and bought her a particularly beautiful Frozen princess dress with lace edges for the first time. She was so excited that she kissed my face several times and spent the whole day in front of the mirror, wearing a skirt to compare.

The next day, she still wore it to kindergarten. After school, she was ecstatic and full of confidence, saying, "Mom, today my classmates all praised my dress for being very beautiful. They asked me where I bought it from

I just realized that although the child is small, they are also very sensitive to others' opinions.

Children instinctively hope that the people around them will welcome, pay attention to, and like them.

A well mannered and elegant child and a messy and casual child receive completely different responses from their surroundings.

When children appear in a beautiful and generous image in the crowd, they can gain more respect and attention from people. In this way, children will have a greater love for communication, be better at expressing themselves, and have more enjoyable emotional experiences.

On the contrary, if a child's appearance is messy, dressed casually, and unkempt, they will experience more coldness from their surroundings, and become increasingly shy and insecure. Over time, they may even be afraid of being noticed and prefer to quietly hide in a corner without speaking.

So, dressing up children more delicately and beautifully is not to please anyone, but to make them more confident, brave enough to express themselves, gain more respect from others, and give them more opportunities to embrace the world. At the same time, dressing up children well can also help them have a deeper understanding of beauty and a more positive attitude towards life.

Aesthetics should be started from a young age, as children are more likely to win

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Some mothers may say, 'I won't dress up my child now. Can I dress up my child when they grow up?'? ”

may not! Because every child has their own period of aesthetic sensitivity.

Sun Ruixue said in "Capturing the Sensitive Period of Children": In fact, the temperament of adults is caused by the aesthetic taste during childhood, which lays the foundation for a person's aesthetic tendency and quality of life throughout their life.

That is to say, when children grow up, their aesthetic level and hierarchy have already formed, and it is difficult to make changes.

For example, some people can wear a T-shirt that costs only a few tens of yuan and still exude a sense of luxury. But there are also people who, even when wearing branded clothes and jewelry, give people a feeling of cheapness.

In fact, this is the impact of aesthetic ability on a person.

If you want your child to be a person who excels both externally and internally in the future, then from a young age, you should pay attention to cultivating their aesthetic ability.

As parents, we hope that while guiding our children to have interesting souls, we can also encourage and cultivate them to showcase their beautiful skin.

Encourage all mothers and children together.